The first thing to do to be your own success coach is to decide on your goals. When you have done this, you need to pick which one to tackle first.
There is no set way to pick your first goal and some might be more urgent that others. You might decide to begin with a goal you have had for some time. Go for whatever feels right to you.
Plan Each GoalWhen you have chosen your goal, set yourself a timeframe for completion. This is not a deadline as such but more of a finish line, to give yourself something to aim for. You can plan smaller projects, doing this, that will all lead to your main goal.
Write down what your biggest goal is and the date by which you want to achieve it. If, for instance, you want to lose 20 lbs of weight, a milestone might be shedding the first 5 lbs. If your goal is not to smoke a cigarette for 6 months (by which time your cravings will be gone) you should aim for 2 months of being smoke-free first, since 2 months sounds easier than 6 months. Reward yourself with a treat after reaching each milestone, to encourage your further.
Having intermediate goals can be set at weekly or monthly intervals, depending on the time frame for the main goal. Break down your intermediate goals even more so the main goal seems less scary. Set daily goals if you can, then you will feel like you are making plenty of steps in the right direction, rather than trying to do everything in one big chunk.
The main goal, the intermediate ones and the daily ones are all part of changing your life to make it the way you would ultimately like it. Your smaller, broken down goals are like a map to guide you on the way to reaching the biggest one.
Choose Diverse GoalsWhen you have broken down your goal steps, check your master list and choose something that deals with a different part of your life. You can work on more than one goal at once but only have one goal per area, to balance them out. You can have perhaps one family goal, a health one and a work one. This is easier than having three health goals to deal with at one time.
In the next part we will look at how to get over bumps and slip ups along the way to reaching your goals.
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如何成为自己的私人成功导师 （第二部分）
要成为自己的成功导师的首要条件是要选定自己的目标。当确定自己的目标后，你需要选择先去完成哪一个。
选择首要的目标没有什么规定的方式，也许一些目标要比其余的更急需去完成。你可以从先前已经考虑很久的那个目标开始。努力寻找那些你认为对的目标吧！
规划每一个目标
当你已经确定目标，规定一个完成这个目标的期限。这不是所谓的最后期限，更准确的说是个终点线，一个完成目标的参照点。你可以计划小规模的方案，借此实现最后的主要目标。
写下你的最大目标和你想完成它的日期。设想一下，举个例子，你想减掉20磅，那么先减掉5磅就是你的里程标。如果你的目标是6个月不抽烟（直到成功戒烟），你应该首先定一个2个月都不抽烟的目标，因为2个月听起来比6个月要容易许多。达到每个预期的目标时别忘了犒劳一下自己，那样可以更进一步的激励你。
可以把每周或每月作为实现每个阶段目标的时间间隔，这取决去实现最终目标的期限。尽可能的攻克每个阶段目标，那样最终目标就指日可待了！！如果你愿意，最好每天确定一个目标，那时你会感觉你正向着正确方向迅速行进，而不是试图一次搞定所有的问题。
最终目标，那些阶段性目标和每日目标是改变你命运走向成功的不可缺少的组成部分，你最后一定会爱上它！那些小规模的，已被实现的阶段性目标如同引导你走向最后成功的地图。
选定不同的目标
当你的预期目标没有实现的时候，看一下你的计划清单并且选择一个去应对你生命中的那段不顺的部分。你可以一次从事几个目标，但是每个领域只能有一个目标，使它们平衡。比如这个目标可以是关于家庭的，关于健康的，或者是工作方面的。这比一次要应对3个健康上的目标要容易得多。
在下个部分我们将会重点介绍如何在实现目标的过程中克服挫折和弥补疏漏。