10,000,000对同居者——21世纪所要面临的现实

读者: 1418    发布时间: 2007

原文: 10,000,000 Couples Living Together = 21st Century REALITY!

It’s time to take a serious and non-judgmental look at helping cohabitating couples improve the fitness of their relationships.

 

The world of committed couples is rapidly changing. In your grandparent’s time, few couples lived together without virtue of marriage. By the 21st century, more than 10 million couples, nationwide, are making live-in arrangements commonplace. By their sheer numbers, such pairs need specialized advice on keeping their relationships happy, healthy and fulfilling.

If you’re reading this article, chances are you can answer “Yes” to at least one of these questions:

  • Are you now living together, with your significant other?

  • Are you thinking about moving in together?

  • Is your live-in relationship getting rocky, or not as joyful as you had hoped?

  • Do you know someone who needs help with a live-in relationship?

  • Are you wondering about the reasons for and the risks of cohabitating?

  • Do you want to strengthen your live-in relationship?

Since this is uncharted territory, when it comes to improving the fitness of a live-in relationship, couples need a clear, step-by-step method that is not touchy-feely, judgmental or complicated. Here is groundbreaking information, on key topics, for anyone involved in or interested in learning more about cohabitation:

 

Changing Views…
75% of high schoolers think cohabitation is worthwhile and harmless. And there has been little public opposition to cohabitation. It is now more widely-accepted than divorce or having a child out of wedlock. Nearly 50% of all children will spend some time in a cohabiting family before age 16. Not unlike previous generations, the majority of young people today want to marry and have children. However, unlike any past generation, most see living together as a logical “next step” before walking down the aisle, or as an alternative to ever marrying.

 

No More Cookie-Cutter Couples…
There are actually 20 types of Unmarried Couples in 4 categories from LOW to HIGH risk such as “Young & In-love”… “Pregnant & Pressured”… “Pre-wedding Convenience Seekers”… “Ring-less Biological Parents”… “Trial Marriage Practitioners”… and “Anti-marriage Advocates.” Are YOU one of these?

 

Business Strategies Save Relationships…
“Happily Unmarried: Living Together & Loving It” is the first book that shows you how to create a winning live-in relationship. Several “business strategies” work for any stage of your relationship, so couples can be happily un-married and less-stressed, with greater togetherness and fun. Couples learn about:

  1. Finding a common vision for the relationship -- before the shock that can happen after moving in together.
  2. Writing measurable objectives -- to define why the relationship exists and how to productively re-evaluate the relationship on a regular basis to either end it, constructively, or deepen it.

  3. Developing and marketing a relationship “brand” -- a “love logo” to head off the judgments and criticisms of friends and family before they start.

  4. Merging “mindstyles” -- to eliminate common battles like… how to spend the holidays, what to do with household possessions… or coping with children from other relationships.

  5. Creating clear job descriptions -- that pinpoint each partner’s chores around the house, preventing battles over simple things like who takes out the trash!

译文: 10,000,000对同居者——21世纪所要面临的现实

现在已经是时候用一种严肃而非审判的眼光来看待帮助同居男女以提高他们关系的适度这个问题了!
 
世界上忠于对方的夫妻正在飞速地变化。在你们祖父母那个年代,几乎没有男女是没有结婚就住在一起的。到了21世纪,世界上1000多万男男女女都同居了。从他们完整的统计来看,这些男男女女需要专家的建议来使他们的关系保持愉快、健全和落实。
如果你正在读这篇文章,碰巧会对下面至少一个问题回答“是的。”
你现在和你的有重大意义的那一个住在一起吗?
你有没有想过要搬到一起呢?
你的同居关系是不是正变得困难,或者已经不像你以前想象的那么快乐了?
你认识在同居关系上需要帮助的人吗?
你对同居的理由和风险质疑过么?
你想巩固你的同居关系吗?
由于这是个未知的领域,当提到提高同居关系的适度时,男女们都需要一个清清楚楚、按部就班的方式,而不是高代价的、审判的或者复杂的方法 。这里有则革新的消息,在这个关键话题上,任何有关的或者有兴趣的人都可以知道更多关于同居的知识。
观念在改变……
75%高校的学生认为同居是值得做的,也是无害的。并且只有很少的公众反对同居。现在,离婚和未婚生子越来越被普遍接受。将近50%的孩子在16岁之前在同居家庭待过。就同以前的几代人一样,现在大多数年轻人也想结婚和生孩子。然而,不像以前的任何一代,大多数年轻人都将同居视为合理的踏入婚姻殿堂的“下一步”,或者用来替代已有婚姻。
不再有甜蜜——割裂男女……
现在有4个风险由低到高的大类中20种类型的无婚男女。比如像“早恋”……“怀孕压力”……“提前结婚的便利搜索者”……“没有戒指的生物夫妻”……“试婚的开业者”……以及“反对结婚的提倡者”。你是其中之一吗?
经营战略维持关系……
“快乐地未婚:同居& 爱它”是向你展示怎样创造一个成功的同居关系的第一本书。几个“经营战略”专为你们关系的各个阶段服务,所以男女们可以快乐地未婚,无须压力,有更大的归属感和乐趣。男女们学会:
找到两个人对于这段关系的共同看法——住在一起以后,打击来临前。
记下可预测的目标——为了给为什么这段关系存在和以结束它,或者富有建设意味地加深它这样的常规的根据来评价这段关系下个定义。
发展和经营一段关系的“商标”——一个在开始这段感情前,为了阻止朋友和家里的审判和批评的“爱的表示语”。
融入“心灵风格”——为了减少共同的壁垒,比如……怎样度过假期,对于家庭财产怎么办……或者对付别人家的孩子。
对工作有个清晰的描述——分清每个伴侣的家务可以阻止对于小事情的争吵,比如谁扔垃圾!