自从做了这个博客以来，一直都是写一些心理学知识方面的话题，从来没有写过自己的情感生活，有很多朋友和我自己的好友上了博客以后都对我说，怎么你的博客一上是心理学的知识，再上还是在说心理学，为什么没有把自己的一些情感生活写上去让大家一起分享一下呢？
其实我也很想写一下自已的情感生活，一是可以缓解一下压力，二是可以让大家对我更进一步的了解，了解心理咨询这个行业，但是因为我一般比较忙，没有什么太多的时间，所以一直没有时间去学，希望大家见谅。 我先给大家讲讲心理咨询师这个职业吧，有很多的朋友，跟我聊天的时候就会说，你们心理咨询师真好，能控制自己的心情，碰到高兴的事能够让自己平静下来，不飘飘然，碰到难过的事，能调整自己的心态去面对。能够做到心如平静。其实并不是这样的，心理咨询师也是人，也是一个个体，有他自己的世界观人生观，有他自己对事物的看法，也有他自己的情感，只是心理咨询师更会调整自己的心态，有较快的平静下来而已，并没有大家想像的那么神奇，那么深不可测 我想大家还会有这样的想法，以为心理咨询师有多么神秘，认为心理咨询师看人家一眼就能知道别人的在想什么等。
我碰到一位朋友，是在网上和我聊天，第一句话就是，你知道我现在在想什么吗？当时我就笑了笑对他说，我希望你能明白，心理咨询是科学的，不是迷信，也不是玄学，它虽然能探索到你内心中的想法感受等，但是他有一个前提，那就是得了解你的资料。 有很多的朋友，在向我咨询的时候，只是把他的问题说出来，说问我应该怎么办，就要求我对解决他的问题，像这样的朋友，我只会慢慢的向他们解释，心理咨询不同于生理疾病，哪个地方痛医生就会知道是那里出现了症状，那里需要治疗。而心理咨询得先分析出你的原因，才能帮你引导调整，而要知道你的原因，又必需知道你的资料，所以每当朋友需要咨询的时候，我都会事先和他们说明，一般心理咨询分三个阶段，一是收集资料，二是分析问题，三才是引导调整或者说是治疗。所以有时候会碰到这样的朋友，他们都不相信心理咨询师（或者心理医生）认为他们是在骗钱，认为咨询来咨询去，都从来没有帮他们制定一个治疗的方案，而只是需要咨询的朋友认为的“简单”的谈话，而他们不知道谈话其实是准备阶段，这个阶段效果是不会很明显的，从而放弃了咨询，半途而废，对这样的朋友，我只能好好的帮他们解释心理咨询的咨询过程，同时也对帮助他们的心理咨询师感到失望同情。
我希望心理咨询师们要注意事先说明心理咨询的一些问题，让来访者了解心理咨询，才有更好的帮他们进行引导调整。
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Emotional Life of a Psychiatric Consultant
Since I opened my blog, I always write something about psychology, and never write about my emotional life. Many people and my friends who viewed my blog would say:"Each time I browse your blog, I read nothing but knowledge of psychology. Why not share with your friends your emotional life?"
Actually, I am willing to write about my emotional life. On one hand, it helps to relieve my pressure; on the other hand, it makes people understand me and my career better. Since I am busy, I don't have time to do it until now. It is a bit late but I hope you don't mind.
Now, let me begin by introducing my career as a psychiatric consultant. Many people, when chatting with me, would say:"It is better to be a psychiatric consultant, for a psychiatric consultant can control his mood easily. He can calm himself down and come back to earth when exciting things happen, or adjust his mentality quickly to face unpleasant things with a tranquil mind." However, this is far from true. Like an ordinary person, a psychiatric consultant has his own view on world and life, his own perception on things around him, and his own feelings. But the difference lies in that a psychiatric consutant knows better how to adjust his mentality and makes himself calm down more quickly. Still, many people hold the opinion a psychiatric consultant is a mystery and can know what other people are thinking just by glancing at them. while in reality,he is not as wonderful and unpredictable as many people think he is.
One day, I ran into a friend online. When we began to talk, his asked me immediately:"Do you know what I am thinking?" I smiled and explained to him:"I hope you understand that psychiatric consulting is scientific, not superstitious or metaphysical. A psychiatric consultant can explore ideas and feelings deep in your heart as long as he has your personal data, which is a prerequisite."
Many people, who come to consult me would demand an immediate solution just after telling me their problems. Under these circumstances, I can only tell them clealy and slowly that psychiatric consulting is quite different from physical illness. The latter demonstrate itself by some symptoms, from which a physician can diagnose the illness and then treat it. While a psychiatric consultant has to analyse the causes first, according to which makes a plan to guide and adjust the patients, and to get the causes, the personal data are required.
So, whenver someone comes to consult me, I will tell him at the beginning that :"Psychiatric consulting includes three phases. The first phase is to collect materials ; the second to analyse the cause; and the third to guide and adjust,or rather, treat patients." Sometimes I meet some people who don't believe in psychiatric consultants(or psychologists), who, in their opinions, are to cheat them out of money by "simple chatting" without making plans to treat them. In fact, simple chatting is the preparatory stage which doesn't produce evident results. Not seeing that, they give up the treatment. When meeting these people, I tend to introduce the process of psychiatric consulting to them, and meanwhile, I feel disappointed in and sympathetic to their original psychiatric consultants.
I sincerely hope that psychiatric consultants will disperse some prejudice against psychiatric consulting beforehand, which will help clients know it better and will in turn contribute to the guidance and adjustment.