提高你的技能:在你的职业与生活中找到平衡点

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原文: Sharpening Your Skills: Career & Life Balance

Published: January 15, 2009

Sharpening Your Skills dives into the HBS Working Knowledge archives to bring together articles on ways to improve your business skills.

Questions to be Answered

  • How do I get past a feeling of being stuck in life or work?
  • Can I resist the temptations of success?
  • Am I working too hard?
  • Is there room for spirituality at the office?

How do I get past a feeling of being stuck in life or work?

Feeling Stuck? Getting Past Impasse

Feeling "stuck," as psychologically painful as it is, is the first step to awareness of new opportunities in career and in life, says Harvard Business School's Timothy Butler. In this Q&A and excerpt from his book, Getting Unstuck, he explains six steps for getting from here to there. Key concepts include:

  • A psychological impasse is developmentally necessary for human beings.
  • Although impasse is usually first expressed as a failure, it is a requirement for individuals to change their way of thinking about themselves and their role in the world.
  • There is a six-phase plan for recognizing and overcoming impasse, starting with feeling stuck and ending with finally taking action.
  • Each phase has its predictable challenges, but some people find one phase more difficult than another.

Can I resist the temptations of success?

Resisting the Seductions of Success

"The basic problem with the flow of success is that life can look very good when it really isn't," writes Harvard Business School's Joseph L. Badaracco Jr. His book, Questions of Character, uses literature to look closely at issues of leadership. Here's an excerpt. Key concepts include:

  • The hazards of success is one of the oldest and most perplexing themes in literature, and is at the core of the novel I Come as a Thief by Louis Auchincloss.
  • Executives can become almost actors in a role created by the people and society around them, while at the same time being dead inside.
  • Leaders need the capacity to distance themselves from the pressures and seductions of success and to think and live for themselves.

Am I working too hard?

Secret to Success: Go for "Just Enough"

Being the very best in your chosen field is, paradoxically, a matter of accepting your limitations. A book excerpt by Harvard Business School's Laura Nash and Howard Stevenson. Key concepts include:

  • If we value achievement and adopt celebrity standards, we will certainly fall victim to our own excess. Nothing will be enough, and success will never satisfy. If we're high achievers, we may be plagued with self-doubt, feeling that we've never done quite enough.
  • Our collective fixation on "the best" and what the best means is an open invitation to be deceived by the latest success fairy tale.
  • If you wish to live with a continually renewing sense of success that really seems worthwhile and lasting on all your success targets, you have to give up the standards of maximization.

Is there room for spirituality at the office?

Does Spirituality Drive Success?

Is there a place for spirituality in the work environment? In 2002, executives from Silicon Valley to Boston met to tell how they twine their business leadership with religious and personal values. Attendees said their religious/spiritual beliefs helped them:

  • inspire their companies to do good in surrounding communities;
  • find guidance in making crucial decisions, especially those that affect other people.
  • shape their leadership through a faith's emphasis on personal values such as dignity.

译文: 提高你的技能:在你的职业与生活中找到平衡点

发表日期: 2009年1月15日

 

《提高你的技能》被收录于《哈佛商学院实用知识》中。《哈佛商学院实用知识》一书中收集了多篇文章旨在帮助你提高商业技能。

 

    回答问题

  •  当生活或工作陷入绝境时,我该怎么办? 
  •  我能够抵御成功的漩涡吗? 
  •  我是否工作得太辛苦了? 
  •  办公室里容许宗教信仰的存在吗?

 

    当生活或工作陷入绝境时,我该怎么办?

     

    陷入绝境?打破僵局

     

     

      哈佛商学院的蒂莫西·巴特勒博士说,陷入“绝境”,其实是一种心里上的痛苦,是意识到事业和生活拥有新的契机的开始。在此我们引用了蒂莫西·巴特勒博士书中的问答及摘要,其中他解释到,要打破僵局有六步骤。他的主要观点是:
  • 心理上陷入绝境在每个人的发展过程中是必不可少的。
  • 尽管在开始时,绝境意味着失败,但是这会促使人们换个角度审视自己及自己所处的位置。
  • 要意识并打破僵局要经历六个阶段,从一开始会感到痛苦到最后采取行动去改变。
  • 每一个阶段都会有可预知的挑战,但是有些人会发觉自己在通过某个阶段时比别人要付出更 多。

 

    我能够抵御成功的漩涡吗? 

    抵挡住成功的漩涡

 

 

哈佛商学院的小约瑟夫L巴达拉克教授在他的书中说到,“由成功引发的根本问题是,生活看起来比实际上的好。”在《领导者个性》一书中,小约瑟夫L巴达拉克教授以文学形式透视领导才能的问题。这里引述了书中的一些内容,而他的主要观点是:

  •   成功的危害已成为文学作品中最老套也最令人困惑的主题,其也是路易斯·奥金克洛斯的小说《我来想贼一样》的核心问题。
  • 是执行者所在的团体和里面的人创造了执行者所扮演的角色,他们同样可以取消这个角色。
  • 领导者应该有能力抵御成功的压力和漩涡,为自己着想,为自己而活。

 

    我是否工作得太辛苦了?

 

    成功的秘诀:恰到好处的生活

 

 

矛盾的是,要想在自己的行业中出类拔萃就要接受自己的极限。引述于哈佛商学院的劳拉·纳什和霍德华·斯蒂文森的合著。其主要观点是:

  •  如果我们过于重视成就并以名人的标准来要求自己,我们必将成为自不量力的牺牲品。不知足者永远不能取得成功。如果我们给自己的定位过高,就会在自我怀疑中纠结,永远不能感到满足。
  •  我们都将自己定在“最优”的位置上,而普遍使用的最好方法就是以最新的童话般的成功事例以蒙蔽自己。
  • 如果你希望不断地获得成功的新感受,而这些感受因你为成功定下的目标而有持久的价值,那么你就要放弃对自己的过高要求。

 

办公室里容许宗教信仰的存在吗?

 

宗教信仰能驱使人们获得成功吗?

 

 

在工作环境里有一席之地以容许宗教信仰的存在吗?2002年,美国硅谷的高管们到波士顿的集会去讲述他们是如何将自己商业领导才能于个人宗教信仰和价值观融为一体的。出席者表示宗教信仰对他们很有帮助:

  • 启发他们的同事为自己的团体努力工作。
  • 在做关键性决定时给予指导,尤其是会给他人带来影响的决定。
  • 强调个人价值观的信仰,如尊严,塑造了他们领导才能。