1. Leave Notes (in Unusual Places)
   Perhaps life has become so busy that you feel like your schedule rarely coincides with that of your partner or kids. How about leaving them a note somewhere unexpected? You’ve probably all heard of kids having little notes from their mom’s in their lunch bags – that’s one place to start, but how about a note by the kettle, in the fridge, on the pillow, on the computer screen...? This can become a bit of a game as you compete to leave a note in the most unusual places!
   
   
2. Hug Someone
   Physical gestures mean a huge amount, and a hug can be just what a loved one needs to put a big smile on their face. Whether it’s snuggling up on the sofa with your partner or giving your kids a goodnight hug, being held and warmed by another person is a perfect way to feel loved.
   
   
3. Write A Poem
   A time-honored way to say “I love you” is to write a poem. You don’t have to be Shakespeare – look for sincere, original ways to tell someone that you love them. Try not to fall back on hackneyed phrases about their beautiful blue eyes or their rosy red lips; write about something that’s meaningful to you, perhaps that dimple on their chin, or the way they laugh at your jokes.
   
   
4. Give An Unexpected Gift
   I’m sure you give your loved ones gifts on their birthday, at Christmas, and on special occasions like Valentine’s day. But how about bringing a gift completely at random? An unexpected present is a moment of pure joy for the recipient and the giver, and it needn’t be anything expensive. A few of their favorite chocolates, a small bunch of flowers, a book which you know they’ll enjoy ... for a few dollars, you have the perfect way to say “I love you”.
   
   
5. Do The Chores (Without Being Asked)
   For many people, another extremely welcomed gift is someone else doing the chores! If it’s your partner who usually cleans the kitchen, why not do it and surprise him/her? If you normally have to be nagged to vacuum, get it done without being asked. Finding little ways to make someone else’s day smoother lets them know how much they mean to you.
   
6. Hold Hands
   Like hugging, holding hands is something that we often neglect to do when a relationship becomes cozy and familiar. Try taking your partner’s hand when walking down the street, or hold their hands across a table in a restaurant. Being in contact physically helps you feel closer emotionally. This is especially important if you need to talk through a difficult issue or problem. Holding hands can also be a visible demonstration of support if your partner is upset or feeling down.
   
   
7. Make A Special Meal
   If Friday nights usually mean ordering takeout, why not offer to cook for a change? Make a special meal for your partner (you don’t need an excuse for this – it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s day or an anniversary!) Include their favorite foods, take a few minutes to set the table, to light candles and put music on, and your usual forgettable evening slumped on the sofa can become a night to remember...
   
8. Dress Up
   In the early stages of a relationship, you probably made the effort to look your best. Of course it’s nice to get to the point where you can lounge around in your jammies or your over sized, hole-ridden t-shirt... but occasionally getting dressed up can rekindle that early excitement in the relationship. Why not go out to a “swankier” restaurant than usual (it doesn’t have to be much more expensive), or just get dressed up in your party clothes for a special meal for two at home?
   
   
9. Give a Foot/Shoulder Rub
   Modern life is stressful and many of us have aches and pains caused by tense muscles. A shoulder rub, back rub or foot rub is a wonderful way to tell your partner “I love you”. It demonstrates that their physical well being and comfort is important to you, and it’s also a great way to reinforce physical and emotional closeness.
   
   
10. Listen to Them
    It’s easy to talk over people or to tune out most of what they’re saying whilst reading the newspaper or chatting online with friends. Listen actively to your partner – when they want to talk, put down what you’re doing, and focus all your attention on them. Listen for what they don’t say; unvoiced concerns or worries, or hints at what they’d really like. Nod and make eye-contact to show that you’re paying attention.

Written on 2/4/2008 by Ali Hale. Ali runs Alpha Student, a blog packed with academic, financial and practical tips to help students get the most out of their time at university.

Photo Credit: Éamonn

很不幸的是我们常常会轻易的习惯于日常的生活,而忽略了对对自己最重要的人表达爱意。这在不知不觉中形成，但当你意识到这点，时间已流逝。

如果你的人际关系已经陈旧，或者你把你的朋友当成理所当然，这里有些方法可以教你如何向他们表达你的爱。当你意识到这点，有些人会觉得时间并不是问题，问题只是你表达自己想法的方法。

因此，你应该知道有时候不用开口也可以表达你的爱，因为行动胜于雄辩。

1.      在意想不到处留些小纸条

也许你的生活已经变得很繁忙，你的时间表无法与你配偶或孩子的一致，那么在他们意想不到的时候给他们留个便条吧？你或许听说过有些孩子在午餐袋里找到妈妈给他们的小纸条，那个地方很可行，那么在水壶上，冰箱上，枕头上或是电脑屏幕上呢？在最意想不到的地方留小纸条会非常具有挑战性。

2.       拥抱他们

肢体语言能表达很多，一个拥抱足以使一个被爱的人笑容满面。不论是在沙发上与配偶依偎还是给你的孩子一个晚安拥抱，被别人温暖的拥抱是最能有被爱的感觉的。

3.       写首小诗

比较老套的传达“我爱你”讯息的方法莫过于写首小诗。你不必像莎翁那样，你只要用最诚恳，最原始的方法表达你的爱意即可。不必拘泥于陈词滥调，写一些诸如你的兰色的眼眸，火热的双唇这类话，只写一些于你们有意义的东西，或许是脸颊上的酒窝，又或许是他嘲笑你笑话的方式。

4.       出乎意料的礼物

你肯定会在你爱的人的生日，圣诞节，或是情人节这样特殊的日子送他们礼物。不过随意的送他们些礼物你觉得怎么样呢？一个出乎意料的礼物对于给予者和接受者来说都是为了双方开心，所以它并不需要很昂贵。一些他们喜爱的巧克力，一小束花，一本他们会喜欢的书，这些都花不了多少钱，但却是最好的表达“我爱你”的方式。

5.       主动做些家务活

对许多人来说，另一个受欢迎的礼物就是有人帮他们做家务。如果一直是你的配偶清洁厨房，那你为什么不帮他做了给他一个惊喜呢？如果你从来不用真空吸尘器，何不主动用它做家务。用细小的方式让其他人的生活更轻松，可以看出你有多在乎他们。

6.       牵起他们的手

和拥抱一样，当我们的人际关系变得亲密无间了，我们也时常忽略牵手。试着在街上和你的配偶手牵手，或是在餐厅挽着他们的手臂。肢体上更为靠近会使你们在感情上也更为亲近。在你想谈论复杂问题的时候这变得尤其重要。当你配偶难过或失落时，牵起他们的手更是一种支持的表示。

7.       做顿特别的饭

  如果星期五晚上你们通常是出去吃饭的，那何不自己烧饭改变一下呢？为你的另一半做顿特别的饭（对此你不需要理由，这天不需要是情人节或纪念日）做一些他们爱吃的食物，花些时间布置桌子，点好蜡烛，打开音乐，平时坐在沙发上打发时间的无聊夜晚会变得令人难忘。

8.       精心装扮
在人际关系的早期，你通常会精心打扮使自己看起来状态最好。在有些地方你穿着随意的，大号的，破洞的T恤闲逛是没什么问题，但是偶尔打扮一下可以重新点燃早期的交往激情。为什么不去去时髦人云集的饭店（这并不会花掉你很多钱），或是在家精心打扮后来个烛光玩餐？

9.       给他们做个足/肩摩

现代生活充满压力，许多人都会因肌肉紧张造成疼痛。一个肩膀按摩，背部按摩或脚部按摩都是向另一半表达爱意的绝佳方法。这说明你很重视他们身体的健康和舒适，这也是巩固身心亲近度的很好方法。

10.    倾听他们
当读报或上网聊天的时候，很容易就能和他们商量些事情，帮他们解决问题。认真的倾听你的另一半，当他们要对你什么的时候，放下你手中的事，专注的倾听。要听出什么是他们不愿说的，那些隐藏的忧虑担心和真正的线索。用点头和眼神交流告诉他们你有在用心听。

除了这10条外，相信还有更多方法可以用行动说明“我爱你”，你有什么建议？你的爱人曾对你有什么惊人之举？

该文由艾丽海尔写于2008年4月2日，她管理阿尔发学生管理系统，这个博客有着学术，经济各方面的实用建议，帮助学生们在大学期间学到更多。